10 Ways to Speak to Someone with Dementia

10 Ways to Speak to Someone with Dementia

10 Ways to Speak to Someone with DementiaDementia a common age-related illness. It can turn a loved one from a lively individual to someone who has a hard to comprehending the world around them, which can be extremely depressing. To help you communicate with your loved one who has dementia, here are some tips.

Learn about dementia.

Dementia starts slowly and then gets worse over time. You should learn all you can about it, so you don’t find yourself wondering what is wrong with him/her. You’ll understand that it’s just the natural process of dementia.

Speak to the person without distractions around.

Seniors with dementia can be easily distracted. Try to sit down with him/her where there’s nothing around that could lead him/her astray. If he/she still has a hard time focusing, just be patient and try your best.

There are good days and bad days.

Some days you will not be able to communicate with your loved one. The illness has a tendency to go from severe to mild and back to severe. Take advantage of the good days, and just be patient with the bad ones.

Speak in a calming voice.

Instead of speaking louder or in a baby voice, just stay calm. Your loved one will sense you’re frustrated if you let his/her misunderstanding bother you. If you’ve repeated yourself and it still doesn’t click, let it go. Remind yourself that it’s not him/her, it’s the dementia.

Refer to names as much as possible.

When you use too many pronouns, your loved one is more likely to get lost in the conversation. Use names as much as possible. This will help him/her understand who you are talking about.

Use your hands and facial expressions to explain concepts.

Words may not work as well as your actions. Try to be expressive when you speak, so you can show your loved one whether what you’re discussing is a bad or good thing.

Don’t point out mistakes.

Your loved one will likely make a lot of mistakes in what she is saying. She may have misunderstood what someone else said or doesn’t remember. Don’t worry about correcting the mistakes. He/She will likely become upset if you do, and that can hurt your relationship.


Listening is such an important part of being with someone with dementia. Many people feel lonely at this age, and all of those thoughts that cross their mind don’t ever get vented. Being able to sit back and listen can do wonders for your loved one’s mental health.

It can be difficult talking to someone with dementia. If it upsets you too greatly, keep visits short. You may want to visit more frequently, though. This will help you catch your loved one’s good times, so you can treasure those nice times together.

How Personal Consulting Can Help

Personal consulting can help in two ways. It can help caregivers deal with the emotions that come along with helping a loved one with dementia. It can also help seniors with dementia. Remember, having someone who will listen is important to your loved one’s mental health. A personal consultant can do that, and help improve life for him/her. When you need someone who understands, has patience, and can provide the comfort you or your loved one needs at this time, Kendall Van Blarcom is the personal consultant you need.

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