Steps you can take to silence your inner critic.

5 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic

It is an unfortunate reality that many engage in negative self-talk, but there are ways to silence your inner critic. After all, if there was a friend in your life who continually pointed out your faults, you wouldn’t want to spend time with them anymore, right? Friends should buoy one another, and self-talk should also be kind.

If you find that you are continually hard on yourself, explore new ways to reduce negative thoughts and boost personal positivity. A personal counselor can help. 

Determining if You are too Hard on Yourself

Learning how to be kind to yourself and support your dreams is a process, it doesn’t happen overnight. Plus, everyone has a bad day from time to time. If you are unsure if you are too hard on yourself, consider if your your negative self-talk would be something you would say to your childhood self. At every age, self-confidence is delicate. If your inner critic’s words and thoughts are too harsh for your childhood self, they are too critical for you now as well.

Connect with Positive People

Some of the negative self-talk you are participating in could be influenced by the people you surround yourself with. If the friends and family you spend time with are often complaining and focusing on problems, it can lead to dark thoughts. Being grateful for what you have is a more positive path and can help to silence your inner critic.

Make steps to connect with positive people. If you have a hobby you enjoy, try joining a group of individuals who are passionate about the same projects. Or if you are feeling down, choose to go for a walk with a friend who is encouraging. When you surround yourself with positive people you can silence your inner critic. Also, remind yourself that it is negative to be judgmental of others. Gossip is toxic.

Productivity Can Silence Your Inner Critic

Taking a moment to listen to your inner critic and determine what the core issue is may be helpful. After all, if there is a part of your life that you are wanting to change, taking initiative could silence your inner critic. When you set realistic goals and track your progress, you can begin to feel more positive as you experience your life improving.

Learn More About Yourself

When you take steps to improve your life, you may learn where the negative self-talk is coming from. For example, if you talk through your internal dialogue with a personal counselor or record it in a journal over a series of days, you may begin to connect the negativity with outside experiences. Maybe one of your parents was highly critical of you as a child. Or possibly a past relationship damaged your self-confidence. Then, understanding yourself, you can change your thought patterns.

Forgive and Move Forward

Understanding how to be positive and harness your personal power is an important way to silence your inner critic and feel more confident. Forgiving yourself and others will likely be part of the process.

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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