One of the hardest things to do in life is finding out who we are and accepting it. No one perfect. We all have our flaws that can make life difficult at times. However, this doesn’t mean that we should just cave into them and allow them to ruin our lives.
Let’s take an example. Last week, we spoke about addictive personalities. You may have an addictive personality, and that can sometimes have a poor effect on your life. Instead of just shrugging your shoulders and doing whatever it is that is taking control of your life, there’s something you can do about it. This is as long as you are able to accept that it is something you are doing because of your personality.
Self-awareness is a great thing to master. When you’re able to look within yourself, and truly see who you are, you can start to make changes that will make you feel better about life.
Again, taking the example of addictive personality. If you have a tendency to become addicted to certain things, you probably know how it starts out. If you don’t, you should try to figure it out. Usually, people with an addictive personality will begin by trying something new and falling in love with it. They will think about it all of the time, and talk about it just as much. They will engage in that activity any chance they get, and if they can’t, they become extremely upset. So upset they may be become angry and yell. This agitation is often first noticed by loved ones, but you can start to notice it too, if you just take some time to pay attention.
When you know you are becoming addicted to something – when you have that self-awareness – you can start to move forward with changing it, so it doesn’t take over your life. With knowledge comes power, right?
Addictive personalities aren’t the only ones that can benefit from accepting who they are and working with themselves to achieve a better life. Anyone can do it. All that you have to do is pay attention to what you’re doing that is preventing you from that better life.
Try this exercise:
Write down what you would like to change in your life.
Identify the challenges in the way – these should be outside as well as inner challenges.
Come up with solutions on how to overcome those challenges.
Make a plan to overcome them.
Start accepting the way you are, so you can change the way you are little by little. It won’t be something you can do overnight. It takes time to change. Give yourself that time and patience, and you’ll soon be a better person in a better life.
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Kendall Van Blarcom can help you achieve a better life through greater self-awareness and life changing strategies. He works with people every day helping them see what it they are doing that keeps them in a constant state of disappointment. Work with him to break free from your current life, so you can create one you will love.