Many new moms feel unprepared. They may be unfamiliar with how to feed their baby, nurse, change diapers, or provide daily care. Plus, there are many hormonal shifts happening along lifestyle changes.
Advice for New Moms
Often, when another family member, close friend, or well-meaning neighbor arrives to see the new little one, they bring advice. Sometimes that advice deflates new moms. Clearly, free advice is well intended, but unless you’re asking for it, it can be too much to handle.
And it’s not always individuals within your social circle. New moms also find when they take their little one to the park or market, others have advice, too. For example, other moms in the park seem to gravitate towards you because they all want to take a peek at your newborn. But the oohs and aahs are usually followed by questions and unsolicited advice.
Counseling Can Help You with Your Emotions
It doesn’t take long for you to discover that your life feels like someone launched you into a rollercoaster and you don’t know when the ride is going to stop. Know that this is common for new moms. There is help available.
When you find yourself heading back indoors to the comfort of your safe abode, remember that withdrawing from others isn’t healthy either. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed. In all honesty, it doesn’t matter how many videos on parenting that you watch, or how many books you read, becoming a parent and establishing your own routine is really what it boils down to. Both you and your child will change in the coming weeks and months ahead. What works for others may not feel comfortable for you. But the main thing is not to let yourself or your emotions get out of control.
If you are experiencing a tidal wave of emotions, your stress level may be quickly getting out of control. For many, the best solution in these situations is to seek a private consulting session. A counselor can listen to you impartially, guide you toward the solutions that will work for you. Then, you can trade that rollercoaster ride for a relaxing glide in an imaginary hammock that gently rocks away your anxieties.
Ask for Help
Everyone needs a helping hand now and again. Even moms. While asking for help may be difficult, deciding to spend some time focusing on you can help. Especially when they are ready to listen. Like many things in life, we can go through these experiences alone, or we can find strength in our vulnerability and ask for help.
Regardless of the boundaries you set for yourself or your child, you will eventually know what your baby wants and needs. Learn to trust your instincts, and when your emotions need uplifting, consult with someone you trust. Reaching out to another adult might be the best thing you can do.
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