Many women who have recently become new moms feel unprepared for taking care of their newborn baby. Their unfamiliar with how to feed the baby, or nurse him, change his diapers, or care for him when he has gas and continues to cry and you don’t know why. Even trying to dress a tiny infant can feel challenging. Will his little legs even go into the outfit you want to put him into?
Naturally, whenever another family member, close friend, or well-meaning neighbor shows up to see the new little one, they usually bring advice that makes you feel like you’re competing for what’s right and what’s not. Clearly, free advice is well intended, but unless you’re asking for it, it’s sometimes a little too much to handle. You might have also found that many opinions on taking care of a baby or even taking care of yourself are enveloped in contradictions to what your heart is telling you to do.
Or perhaps you take your little one to the park, believing full well that the outdoor adventure and fresh air will be good for you and your baby. Then you realize all too quickly that other moms in the park seem to gravitate towards you because they all want to take a peek at your newborn. But the oohs and aahs are usually followed by questions and then unsolicited advice.
It sure doesn’t take long for you to discover that your life feels like someone launched you into a rollercoaster and you don’t know when the ride is going to stop. That’s when you know that your stress level is quickly getting out of control. The best solution is to seek a private consulting session with someone who can listen to you impartially and offer suggestions so you can trade that rollercoaster ride for a relaxing glide in an imaginary hammock that gently rocks away your anxieties.
If all of this has you heading back indoors to the comfort of your safe abode, it could just add to your stress level because then you’re having a tendency to withdraw from others. But in all honesty, it doesn’t matter how many videos on parenting that you watch, or how many books you read, becoming a parent and establishing your own routine is really what it boils down to. Both you and your child will change in the coming weeks and months ahead. What works for others may not feel comfortable for you. But the main thing is not to let yourself or your emotions get out
Asking for help is sometimes a difficult problem, but getting someone you trust or who is a professional to share a little time with you will have you feeling better in no time. Like many things in life, we can go through these experiences alone, or we can become a little vulnerable and ask for help. Remember, if you can speak with a personal consultant and it eliminates or even eases your stress, it’s worth it.
Regardless of the boundaries you set for yourself or your child, you will eventually know what your baby wants and needs. Learn to trust your instincts, and when your emotions need uplifting, consult with someone you trust. Reaching out to another adult might be the best thing you can do.