Let’s look at the description of self-deception. Self-deception is a state of being where you don’t consider yourself as suffering from any type of a nervous condition, and you probably don’t feel like you need any help. Yet you know in your heart that you’re far from being perfectly happy with your current mental temperament. You know your life could be better.
Perhaps you get upset easily or you’re inclined to feel depressed. Maybe you worry about things that seem huge to you or you’re oversensitive to things that people say to you. Sometimes you might not even know that you’re deceiving yourself. You know that your temperament is not what it used to be and you don’t feel as if you’re thriving in a total state of happiness.
Considering Your Thoughts and Motives
If you talk to a personal consultant or a confidant, they might tell you it’s difficult to explain why someone is normal versus someone who is abnormal. Because what does it mean to be normal anyway? That’s the same as asking someone if they consider themselves an average person. The comeback would be: what does it mean to be average?
Volumes of data have been written on what is known as the unconscious mind. This works hand-in-hand with whether you consider that you are acting normally or you’re defending yourself and creating a self-deception. Many of our thoughts, motives, and ideas occur outside of what is known as our normal consciousness. Any of those things can result in emotions and actions that appear on the surface, but we don’t deal with them because we totally don’t understand them. Thus, self-deception reigns stronger than we’re usually aware of. This unconscious part of our mind acts like a storehouse for our emotions, memories, and ideas, or anything that occurred in the past.
When Does Self-Deception Occur?
Self-deception occurs when you try to keep certain items out of your consciousness that could otherwise create a conflict or an unfavorable emotion inside of you. The cure involves seeing our own imperfections in an undisguised manner and without judgment. Pride gets ruled out. When you’re honest with yourself, and no judgment is involved, you can address how to improve your situation. Again, the cure happens when you consciously admit to yourself the reason for any type of emotion that caused you to turn in the opposite direction.
When you reach a new level of understanding about yourself, you can change your behavior. Then, the next time that you’re confronted by a situation that would normally have you running away in anger or depression, you will be able to stand still for a moment and know that only you are responsible for what you do and say. If anyone in your life takes issue with those things, you know you have done nothing wrong. Then it’s best not to compromise just to placate that other person.
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