Let’s look at the description of self-deception. Self-deception is a state of being where you don’t consider yourself as suffering from any type of a nervous condition, and you probably don’t feel like you need the services of a physician. Yet, you know in your heart that you’re far from being perfectly happy with your current mental temperament and outlook that’s going on in your life.
Perhaps you get upset easily or you’re inclined to feel depressed. Maybe you worry about things that seem huge to you or you’re oversensitive to things that people say to you. Sometimes you might not even know that you’re deceiving yourself. You know that your temperament is not what it used to be, but you don’t feel as if you’re thriving in a total state of happiness.
If you talk to a personal confidant or someone who offers private consulting services, they would tell you that it’s most difficult to explain why someone is normal versus someone who is abnormal. What does it mean to be normal anyway? That’s the same as asking someone if they consider themselves an average person. The comeback would be: what does it mean to be average?
Volumes of data have been written on what is known as the unconscious mind. This works hand-in-hand with whether you consider that you are acting normally or you’re defending yourself and creating a self-deception. Many of our thoughts, motives, and ideas occur outside of what is known as our normal consciousness. Any of those things can result in emotions and actions that appear on the surface, but we don’t deal with them because we totally don’t understand them. Thus, self-deception reigns stronger than we’re usually aware of. This unconscious part of our mind acts like a storehouse for our emotions, memories, and ideas, or anything that occurred in the past.
Self-deception occurs when you try to keep certain items out of your consciousness that could otherwise create a conflict or an unfavorable emotion inside of you. And what’s the cure? The cure involves seeing our own imperfections in an undisguised manner and without judgment. Pride gets ruled out. Therefore, when you’re honest with yourself, and no judgment is involved, then you can immediately address how you feel about the situation. Again, the cure happens when you consciously admit to yourself the reason for any type of emotion that caused you to turn in the opposite direction.
When you reach a new level of understanding about yourself, and the next time that you’re confronted by a situation that would normally have you running away in anger or depression, stand still for a moment and know that only you are responsible for what you do and say. If anyone in your life takes issue with those things, you know you have done nothing wrong. Then, it’s best not to compromise just to placate that other person.
Self-deception can be examined in a session with a private confidant who can listen openly and help you work through that new world that you’re about to step into, which is known as personal freedom. Wouldn’t it feel wonderful today to know that you would never have to feel guilty about self-deception again?
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