When there is bullying in the workplace, it can be diffcult to thrive. If you or someone you know is coping with a bully, you know how difficult it can be. But there are some failsafe responses and actions that you can take when a person is bullying you. Help is available.
Kendall Van Blarcom offers his professional consulting services to individuals seeking a higher level of personal comfort, especially if you have experienced bullying in the workplace. Kendall has a proven track record of helping family members who are trying to cope with someone who’s being bullied, as well as those situations where children, teens, and adults are constantly being bullied.
While you were growing up, you might have had an authority figure in your life who told you to be polite to others that you work with. Although that is a good basic principle, when someone is threatening you with bullying comments, actions, and downright torment, you need to be prepared to defend yourself. Being polite is not in the equation of getting a bully to back down.
Ways to Deal with Bullying in the Workplace
One way to cope with bullying in the workplace is to interrupt or remove yourself from the situation. Bullies don’t like to be interrupted. They also don’t like their victims to just shrug their shoulders and walk away. This infuriates that person who is trying to control the situation and control you by creating fear and doubt.
Also, turning the question back on to the person who’s asking the question can be helpful. In other words, if the bully yells at you, “Why aren’t you listening to me!” Your response could be, “Let’s stop and breathe for a moment, why do you think I wasn’t listening to you?”
Other Verbal Responses for Protection
Another verbal response that will show the bully you’re not intimidated by his or her insinuations or demands is to simply say their name. Bullies don’t respond well to the fact that you’re saying his name when they are expecting a response from you.
Every time you interrupt a bully, and you ask a question, you throw them off course. They won’t like it, but it now puts you in control. But it’s not just about control; it’s about taking your life back and getting this person to leave you alone. The longer you try to avoid them, be polite to them, agree to meet them later, or do something that they request, the longer they are going to be around.
There are many forms of bullying, on school grounds, bullying in the workplace, and within personal relationships. Most have been threatened by a bully more than once in their life. It’s not a matter of asking if you will be confronted. It’s a matter of when. If you need to move forward with a workplace complaint, documentation can be one of the key ways to deal with a bully.
The good news is that you don’t have to go through this alone. If someone that you know is being bullied or you even sense that they’re being bullied, try to give them support soon as possible. If you can’t do it yourself, then contact a personal counselor such as Kendall Van Blarcom. Remember, it’s your life, and you have the power to change any outcome that is challenging you today.
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