Your parents have been taking care of you since the day you were born. They have spent nights worrying about you and days guiding you. Now, you’re on your own. You may even have a family of your own. You know what your parents went through with you.
Some things are changing though. The roles are reversing. You’re going from being cared for by your parents to caring for them. They need your help more than you need theirs now. It’s strange.
You want to do whatever it takes to help them. You know they did the same for you. It’s hard though because they are your parents, and a part of them still holds on to that. The power struggles are real and exhausting. Some days you want to just walk away, other days, you want to get down on the floor and cry.
This is caregiving.
Your parents are older now and it’s true, they need your help.
You don’t have to do it all on your own though. You don’t have to be everything to them. You can’t be everything to them.
Yes, they may have been everything to you. However, think of all the ways that they took care of you without directly doing it.
You may have had childcare while your parents went to work.
You went to school to learn.
You had friends to play with.
Your parents placed these “services” in your life to help you grow. They were still caring for you and helping you, but they called on the help of their friends, family, and community to do it.
Now, it’s your turn.
Caregiving does not mean you directly provide everything your parents need. It means you ensure that they have everything they need. Some of it comes from you, and the rest from friends, family, and the community.
Senior services are available in just about every community. You can ask them what they provide to see how it can help your parents.
If you’re able to help with daily living skills, then great. If not, there are home health aides that can step in and help.
One of the most important parts of dealing with elderly parents is just being there and providing the support they need. Listening to them, figuring out what they need, and helping them through this stage of life.
Release the pressure you’re putting on yourself to be everything to your elderly parents. That’s not the way to do it. You still have a life, and one that needs you to be in it.
More Help with Dealing with Elderly Parents
It can be hard to accept this time in your life. Your parents are getting older and their role isn’t the same in your life, and your role isn’t the same in theirs. It can help to talk to someone like a personal consultant. He can help you work through the feelings and thoughts you’re having and understand what this time means for you and your parents.
Contact Kendall Van Blarcom today for more information on personal consulting can help you.