Confidence is healthy. But confidence does not mean a person has all the answers, they are not always right. It is important to remember that self-confidence is about trusting in one’s abilities and judgment. It is not about comparing yourself to others. When an individual has healthy self-confidence, they will still be attuned to the needs of others.
If a person things highly of themselves but doesn’t respect the opinions of others, it can be damaging to relationships. Thinking only of yourself can result in broken friendships and isolation. If you are coping with feelings of loneliness, set up a telephone coaching session and review what’s going on in your life.
Do You Have to Get Your Own Way?
If you always have to get your own way, you are not valuing other’s opinions. Then, when a person doesn’t agree with you, you ignore them and continue to do what you wanted to do in the first place. A desire to have your own way and being or acting intolerant of other people’s view creates relatiohship issues. It is essentially suggesting to the other person that your ideas are the only right ones.
Even if you don’t struggle with this way of thinking, there is likely someone close to you who exhibits this type of behavior. If so, how do you react? Do you go along with it and agree with whatever that person suggests in an effort to avoid arguments?
Sometimes this type of behavior, when used too frequently, can lead to not having many friends. In other instances, there are friends being manipulated, giving up their own opinions to remain in the association. Hurt feelings are a common result.
How Do You Handle the Person Who Is Always Right?
The person who thinks that he or she is always right and has all the answers is really an insecure person, with an insane and deep amount of an internal desire to gain admiration from those closest to him or her. As kids, it is sometimes what is called a “conceited” person. How far will a conceited person go to win your approval, or display a skill that he thinks you don’t possess, just to prove that he’s better than you?
But we’re not stupid. We, as humans, know that we possess the inner power to not fall for the tricks of those who wish to feel good about themselves at the expense of others.
To be self-confident is one thing, because it allows others around you to be just who they are. But, when your self-confidence depends on how others react to you, that is entirely different.
If you or someone you love is struggling with this issue, then it’s time to slow down and think about why you’re imposing your opinions and strong will on others. For those times when you’d like to talk to someone in confidence and resolve some of your personal isssues, set up a phone call with an experienced counselor.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.