Grandma – Who’s Responsibility Is She?

One of the biggest problems in families is who is going to take care of whom when loved one’s age. While sometimes the responsibility lies on the adult children to care for their aging parents, it can sometimes lie on the adult grandchildren. If the adult children are still around though, this can cause some tension in the family.

Shared Responsibility

Grandma – Who’s Responsibility Is She?Taking care of someone who is aging isn’t an easy job. It’s exhausting physically and mentally. Many people often become depressed, anxious, and otherwise stressed when they need to use their time to care for their older parent.

The reason many people have such a difficult time with caregiving is because they end up doing it all on their own. They are the sole caregiver, and even when other family members see how much work it is, they often turn a blind eye and deaf ear to it.

If possible, it’s best if the responsibility of caring for grandma lies with more than one person. Everyone still has a busy life to lead, and with the help of other loved ones, it’s much less stressful to take care of all the things that an older person needs throughout the day while still taking care of a personal life.

How to Get Loved Ones to Help

It’s true no one can ever make anyone do anything. You can ask your loved ones to help you with your older parent or grandparent, but if they are not willing, you can’t drag them into it. However, you can find ways that they can help without it seeming like a burden to them.

For example, you can bring your older parent to your loved one’s home for a visit. While they are visiting, you can catch a break. Of course, it’s always best to call ahead.

You can also ask your loved ones for a financial contribution. This money can go towards support for your parent or grandparent. You can see if the senior center has programs, arrange transportation, or schedule personal consulting session so you can get relief from a professional who understands what you’re dealing with right now.

When No One Wants to Help

There are many instances when loved ones simply do not want to help at all. They will refuse to care for the older parent/grandparent and are not willing to donate financially to the care of that person. When this happens, you have to do what you have to do to care for yourself first. You can never take care for someone else when you are not well taken care of. If needed, find support in your community to help you care for your older loved one.

Again, you can always schedule a session with Kendall Van Blarcom for personal consulting services. These sessions can help you problem solve, so you can figure out a less stressful way to care for your older parent/grandparent.

You can also set up sessions for your older loved one. These sessions are great for your senior as well as you since it gives you a break from the discussions that you often have with your loved one. Many times, caregivers report that their parents/grandparents are in a much better mood after a session, which turns the entire day around.

Book a session now for the low introductory price of $45. It may just help you find relief from the weight of responsibility that lies on your shoulders right now.

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