Helping an Older Loved One with Depression

Steps to helping an older loved one with depression.

It can be difficult when you are trying to help an older loved one who is suffering from depression. You may feel as if you’ve failed in some way, or you may feel as though your loved one isn’t taking care of themselves.

If you are unsure where to turn, or need help understanding a loved one’s depression, connect with a personal counselor.

Why Older Loved Ones Become Depressed

Many older loved ones are mourning the loss of their spouse and close friends. They are seeing people all around them pass away from old age. Not only do they feel sad about losing people that have been a part of their life for many years, but they also feel vulnerable. They may be thinking that those people could have easily been them, and that can be frightening.

For many older loved ones, survivor guilt occurs. This is when people believe they should have died instead of their loved one. This feeling can bring people down so low because they wish that their loved ones’ lives could have been spared. This also can lead to a person feeling they don’t deserve to be happy because others have not enjoyed the gift of a long life.

Losing loved ones makes people feel they have no one to live for anymore. They feel lonely. This is why they don’t make any attempts to integrate themselves back into society. They simply want to stay at home by themselves.

What You Can Do for an Older Loved with Depression

Pushing your loved one out into the world will not help. This can frustrate and anger them. You don’t want to make this situation any worse than it is.

Try just being there. Call for no reason but to talk. Visit to simply sit and talk. Just being there to see what they need will help your loved one feel better.

What if your loved one won’t talk? Presence can be just as helpful as talking. Watching television together, or reading the paper every Sunday morning can make the difference that will strike up conversation or just lead to him feeling better.

As much as you believe you know what’s best for your loved one, they are the only person who knows what’s best for them. Instead of pushing and suggesting, just be there. Be the friend that they need right now.

Personal Consulting Can Help

Life can get busy and many people don’t have the time to tend to their older loved one’s needs. Thankfully, personal consulting is available. Open conversations with consultants and therapists have helped many people feel better about their situation and life.

There is help available. Getting older does not mean a person is no longer able to enjoy life, there are strategies to reduce worrying and start living again.

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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