Helping Older Loved Ones During the Holidays

Helping Older Loved Ones During the Holidays

Helping Older Loved Ones During the HolidaysThe holidays are a busy time of year. Christmas shopping, menu planning, and all of the other activities that come along with the holidays can make many people feel overwhelmed and forgetful about the real reason for the season. As you’re doing all you need to do during this time, take some time to remember those that may not be as busy – your older loved ones.

The Hustle and Bustle of the Season

Christmas is a time of year everyone has to not only continue working as they have done all year, but also they have to take on additional responsibilities with family. They must prepare for holiday guests and for the arrival of Santa for those with children. It can be difficult to think that someday, all of the hustle and bustle will be gone. And when that is thought of, many people scoff at it saying that they will be happy when it is… Unfortunately, that’s not how many seniors feel.

The holidays is a time when many people reflect on their lives. They remember all of the wonderful memories they have collected of Christmas’ past. They recollect the busyness, anxiety, but also the laughter, smiles, and excitement. The reason they have to sit and think back is because life is much different for them now. They don’t have that anymore, and it’s something they mourn.

As people grow older, times change and many feel sad and lonely because they don’t have all of the friends and family around they once did. They may sit quietly in their rooms the days approaching Christmas, and if they are lucky, they may receive some visitors on the holiday or get to visit their family and friends at their houses. Some are not as lucky because they end up spending a day that used to be filled with so many people completely alone.

If you take a minute to just put yourself in that situation, you may start to feel the despair that many seniors face during this time of year. You may feel appreciative of what you have right now. You may start to feel guilty.

Before you allow yourself to feel bad, stop and do something about it. Take action, so you don’t have to feel that way. Help seniors who are alone this time of year.

How You Can Help

If you have an older loved one, call him today. Ask if he would like to go shopping for someone, or accompany you to the store for gifts. Perhaps you can have him come to your home to help you with decorating or cooking. Asking an older loved one to help you is something that could really make his day.

If asking for help is not an option, you can spend extra time with your older loved one to show you care. Many seniors enjoy sipping a warm drink and reminiscing with people. Recalling and telling people of past holidays brings a smile to their faces and allows them to vent. This is greatly therapeutic and can help relieve the tension they may feel this time of year.

When having your older loved one close is impossible, use modern technology to help. Call him on the phone more often during this time of year. If using Skype is a possibility, plan to connect on the days leading up to the holiday and the day of it. This way he is included in the festivities without leaving his home.

Seek additional support for your older loved one if you feel you can’t do enough. As a personal consultant, many family members and caregivers reach out to me for my services during this time of year. They know it helps their older loved ones because they are able to talk about how their feelings and thoughts. Connecting with someone can bring a person out of sadness and loneliness, which can greatly help their physical and mental health.

Contact me now for more information about how I can help your older loved one during this holiday season.

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