Every family communicates values and belief systems, whether they are aware of it or not. For example, one family may say that they don’t use violence to solve problems. That’s a value statement. Or another family may not allowed anyone to wear shoes inside the house. Again, that’s another value.
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Family Rules Reflect Values
You might think of leaving shoes at the door as simply a family rule. But, if the parents value the health of their family and don’t wish to have outside germs, bacteria, and so forth introduced into the home, then the rule is part of a belief system. Or, if a family has an infant who rolls on or plays on the carpet, the parents might want to keep the area free of anything that the baby might ingest.
Basically, values are a set of guidelines that parents believe are important to them and their families. They will enforce their system on every family member and how they behave.
It’s a known fact that it is beneficial for a child to grow up in a supportive and loving family environment. Parental involvement in a child’s life will help them later on. They will be able to make better life choices, strive for better grades in school, and reap a prosperous life.
Children Need Rules and Guidelines
Children need guidelines so that they can form their own values. The true test of a child’s value system, as established by the parental unit, is always evident in how a child interacts with the world, outside of their parent’s four walls.
Likewise, a young child’s moral behavior may initially be motivated by the child’s desire to please his beloved adults. Sometimes, values are triggered by a fear of a punishment that could follow.
A child instinctively knows when a parent disrespects them. They may feel shamed or punished as a result of their parent’s emotions. Yet, even when some situations are not fully understood by a child, value systems are clearly being formed that will impact their future.
How Children Learn Values
Children learn from the adults that raise them. And values are as unique as every human being. If a child is taught that it’s okay to steal food because the family is poor, then that becomes a value in the child’s mind.
In other circumstances, a child may not have proper boundaries. Rules are important for kids. Boundaries are part of a predictable home, one with structure. Self-regulation and learning can thrive when a home is safe, stable, and loving.
Adults with sound and positive values will bring these qualities into parenthood. These beliefs can help a child thrive through their entire life, directing a person’s behavior, social attitudes, and conduct.
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