One thing I’ve noticed over my years as a therapist and personal consultant is how many seniors have a hard time asking for help for personal problems. People at every age are unsure of how to deal with anxiety, and this can be particularly true of older adults who were raised to be self-sufficient and keep their problems to themselves.
Our generation often heard phrases such as “stiff upper lip” and “don’t air your dirty laundry in public” when personal issues and emotions bubbled up. Yet stuffing emotions down can lead to additional problems as life carries on. Plus, as we age, new challenges can crop up that our life experience hasn’t prepared us for. These challenges can cause stress, anxiety, depression, insomnia, and more.
There is help available. If you are experiencing one or more of the following, consider reaching out for help.
• Money worries.
• Caring for an aging or ill spouse.
• Dealing with your own health or mobility issues.
• Feelings of isolation, loneliness.
• Moving to a smaller home or into seniors housing.
• Talking to your children about your needs.
• Conflicts with or among your children and other family members.
When a caregiver chooses to stuff their own feelings in order to cheer their partner on, they may find themselves only sharing positive statements. But there can be healing power in expressing negative emotions. Sharing worries can help the one you are caring for feel less alone, for example.
Family can be a wonderful support system and a minefield of conflicts. If you have adult children, they might not know how to help you, they may try to help too much, or they may be concerned with their own careers and children and not have the emotional bandwidth to support your needs. They may simply not understand what you’re going through or they don’t know how to deal with anxiety and can’t provide helpful suggestions. There are many lifestyle differences and geographical separations when it comes to adult children and extended family members. For many, the best path to healing is to talk to somebody outside the family.
Learn How to Deal with Anxiety, Confidentially
Turning to a counselor or personal consultant can be a great relief. It allows you to share your deepest worries without fear of hurting someone you love or being judged. You can open up in total privacy and know the things you share will be confidential.
A professional can help you discover how to deal with anxiety, including new ways of coping with the life changes you’re going through. And in that safe environment, you can release any pent-up anger, frustration or sadness that you’ve been holding in.
In short, there can be both emotional and practical benefits in having a compassionate, objective sounding board.
If you’d like to talk to someone who understands the unique challenges of aging, consider a personal consultant. With a mental health professional on your side you can learn how to deal with anxiety. Click here to learn how it works.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.