Brain chatter – it’s a silly term, but it can be very difficult to deal with, especially when you grow older. The chatter that doesn’t leave you alone can make you want to run under the bed covers and sleep, just so it will stop. Unfortunately, this is no way to live life. You shouldn’t have to hide from your self-talk. It should empower you, not degrade you. Learning how to get rid of the brain chatter can greatly help you feel better about yourself and your life.
Brain Chatter – The Busyness of Your Brain
What you must know is that you do not have to be busy in life to have brain chatter. It doesn’t have anything to do with how much you have going on in your life, and that makes perfect sense when you get into retirement. Life has slowed down, you’re relaxing more than you probably ever have, but yet, your brain isn’t following suit.
Your brain has continued to be busy. It’s not used to your new life. It’s still thinking you’re going to flood it with information.
When you don’t flood it with information, it decides to do it for you. It taps you and says, “What if…” “When will…” “Why did…”
Since you are used to acting on your thoughts, you end up responding to them now. You may talk back internally. For example, when your mind asks, “What if I can’t afford my home?” You may respond with, “That won’t happen.” You mind responds, “But what if it does? What if your health fails? What if you end up in an emergency and need to use your savings. What will you do?” You may respond with, “I’ll take care of that if it happens.” Your mind continues on, “Isn’t it better to have a plan? What if you’re blindsided and don’t know what to do, and then you’re living on the streets.” You respond with, “I don’t know what I’ll do…I’m scared now. Why does my mind do this to me?”
As you can see, the mind can take you from feeling in control to not having any control. When you have this brain chatter going on all day, it can make you miserable.
How to Make It Stop
There’s a therapeutic term called “Thought Stopping.” It’s the act of stopping your thoughts. Before you tell yourself that you can’t do that, try the following exercise for just a week.
Every time your brain chatters, ask yourself, “Can I do something about this right now?”
If the answer is no, tell yourself to stop thinking about it. Sounds easier than what it is, but with practice, you’ll see how well it works.
To increase the effectiveness of thought stopping, distract yourself. So after telling yourself to stop thinking about something, get up and do something that you can’t do without thinking about it. Some people will read, and others will call a friend.
Many of my clients call me. They do this because they are then able to process the thoughts they are having. Some of my clients simply want to stop their thoughts from getting away from them. It really does work. How do I know? I do it and so do all of my clients who tell me how effective the strategy is for them.
Contact me for more information. I can help you improve your life in many ways in addition to helping you get rid of brain chatter.
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