Many people find themselves thinking about past events. And when recollections bring them pain, it can be helpful to work through and reframe past experiences. After all, when past pain lives within a person, it can damage their self-esteem and impact their day-to-day life.
Talking with a personal counselor can provide relief. Making changes to your life today can lead to new thought patterns and life improvements tomorrow.
Ways to Reframe Past Experiences
Changing your perspective about your past can be helpful. For example, instead of viewing past events as solely periods of suffering, it may be possible to understand them as stepping stones to where you are now. In order to live the life you want, one that is full of productivity and joy, it can be helpful to see the past as part of your journey.
Rather than letting past experiences control your feelings and damage your sense of self-worth, choose to use them and empower yourself. This does not mean you have to overlook harm that was done. Sometimes, past events can be fuel for future improvement.Recognize your strengths and develop ways to see your experiences as a path to confidence. Adjusting your perspective and choosing to reframe past experiences can be life altering.
One tool many find helpful is to journal, writing down your thoughts can help you prioritize problems and fears. So, if you feel yourself feeling a wave of negative emotions, grab a pen and notebook and ask yourself to write down what specifically you are thinking about.
Awareness can help individuals who are hurting themselves by stating things to themselves that are not necessarily true, too. For instance, if a single person is lonely, they may think they will never meet another person and ruminate over past relationships that have not lasted. This is not helpful. Instead, when you reframe past experiences, you can understand you have learned and grown from the past. New opportunities, relationships, and connections are still possible.
You Can’t Change the Past
The reality is that there is no way to go back in time. Even when things have happened that are unjust, depressing, or traumatic. Even if you experienced behavior you did not deserve, it can’t be undone. Your thoughts today, and into the future, are within your control.
When you ruminate over the past, you are taking away joy from your present life. You are in control of the present. Your past is part of your life, but it is not the entire story. What you do now, and if you choose to reframe past experiences or allow them to control your thoughts, has an impact on your present and future life.
Think about what you would say to someone you care about and be that friend to yourself. When you reframe past experiences, give yourself realistic guidance. It is true that bad things happen, you do not need to say they were positive experiences, but accept that you can’t change what has already occurred. Today, you can make decisions that will impact your future.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.