How to Solve Personal Problems in Life

How to Solve Personal Problems in LifeLife is full of problems. Once you hit retirement, you may feel as though you’ve already dealt with enough problems and that it should be smooth sailing from here on out. Unfortunately, that’s not the way life works. There are many challenges as we age.

The Golden Years are marked with unique problems. Medical conditions flare up, which may involve more doctors’ appointments and procedures. As the years have gone by many more seniors find themselves coping with more financial problems as well. The cost of everything has gone up, and money received from pensions and government programs may not be enough to make ends meet. In addition, family issues can continue to cause feelings of discomfort.

A personal support service can help. Because the perception of retirement being a happy, go lucky time is not always true.

How to Solve Personal Problems in Life

Most people perceive a problem when they feel they have limited control. After all, problems are situations that can’t be solved quickly. While this may seem like it would make solving problems impossible, it’s not. There are some steps you can take to help you solve personal problems.

Step #1: Identify the Problem

Sometimes, it is difficult to pinpoint the problem but you know something is wrong. That’s why it’s important to sit down and really think about what is troubling you. What’s the situation? What makes you feel the way you do?

Step #2: Understand What Can’t Be Controlled

In every situation, there are aspects you will not have control over. Usually, this has to do with how other people are behaving. Always remember, you cannot control other people, you can only control yourself.

Step #3: Find Something You Can Control

You know you can control yourself, but that alone can be frustrating when you can’t move forward. To feel better about a personal problem, try to focus on a goal and how your actions can help you reach it.

For example, if your daughter wants you to move into a nursing home but you don’t want to, your goal would be to avoid the move. Try discussing other options such as having people come to your or going to a day program for seniors. Working together may be a path to finding an alternative.

Step #4: Act On It

Once you know what you can do, implement it. Focus your energy on your goal, so you can assess whether or not it worked. If it did, great job. You’ve just solved a personal problem. If not, you’ll have to go back to step #3:

Help with How to Solve Personal Problems in Life

Step #3 is the hardest one and it’s where most people become stuck. Sometimes this is because the situation is complex. Other times, it’s because you need help coming up with solutions.

If these issues sound familiar, know that personal consulting is available. Van Blarcom Consulting can help you assess your situation to identify the problem, understand what you can’t control and find what you can control, and help you implement a plan to help you with your problem and learn how to assess whether it worked.

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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