There are so many things vying for our attention, often we forget to live in the moment. But this is where you can find true happiness, paying attention to the present.
It is common to be distracted by work, family issues, and obligations. But life is happening right now. In the present. It benefits your physical and mental health when you give yourself time and space to be calm and appreciative. Practicing mindfulness can boost your immune system, reduce stress, and help patients who are ill cope and heal.
Be Kind to Yourself
Thinking too hard about focusing on the present, or feeling bad about not doing it regularly or intentionally, is not helpful. You need to be nice to yourself and recognize your negative thoughts are simply thoughts. You can let them go.
Focus on what is happening where you are, in the room you are sitting in, rather than the self-critique happening in your mind. When you focus on anxious thoughts, you could be exacerbating your anxiety. But there are ways to calm yourself. Focus on things outside of you own thoughts, such as music you are hearing or the things happening around you.
Don’t Worry About the Future
Some are so worried about what will happen in the future—or what already happened in the past—that they are forgetting to enjoy what is happening right now.
When you savor what you are experiencing today, you live in the moment. From enjoying a favorite meal to appreciating the sun on your face during an afternoon walk, luxuriating in what you do have will help you to enjoy the present.
So, if you feel anxiety about the past or future, simply accept the feeling and label it as what it is, a feeling. Then, move your attention to something else, focus on the now. Thoughts are thoughts and can be adjusted.
Live in the Moment and Find Your Flow
When you are in the present, you are more likely to find your flow, meaning you are so absorbed in a project you continue without noticing time or others. For a musician this might happen while learning a piece of music, for a reader this could be the result of a great novel. In both cases, you lose track of time because you are enjoying what you are experiencing, right then.
The result is you feeling more in control of your life and a sense of pride over your personal growth. It is rewarding and pleasurable.
As you adjust to living a mindful life, know there will be an ebb and flow. To set yourself up for success, simply be mindful now. Live in the moment today.
Tomorrow you can remind yourself to do this again. Breathe, take care of yourself, and appreciate life right now.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.