You call your son, but he quickly rushes you off the phone because he’s busy with work. You call your daughter, and she doesn’t answer. You speak to your spouse, but he’s too focused on his golf game on the television to listen. You’re left by yourself wondering why you always end up just talking to your cat or yourself.
You’re Not Alone
This scenario is not rare. Many people end up feeling as though no one has time to listen. Even when something is wrong, people have a hard time engaging because they are so wrapped up in what they have to do in their life. They don’t know how to take time out to pay attention to other people’s needs, especially those that are closest to them.
Just because it’s common for this to happen, it doesn’t make it right. You are a worthy individual, who needs to be heard. You have thoughts, feelings, and knowledge that others could really use. You are worthy of people’s attention, even though they don’t act like it.
So what do you do when no one will listen? You need to find people who will listen or ask loved ones to make time for you.
Finding People Who Will Listen
Finding people who will listen can seem impossible. You may go to a social activity in your community, but everyone already knows each other, so you feel as though you’re not included. You may start to speak to someone, but then you realize they just want to talk about themselves or they end the conversation short just to go talk to someone else.
When these things happen, you just need to keep going. It’s hard, I know, but it’s the only way to find people who appreciate you for everything you have to offer – love, understanding, and information. Many times, all it takes is to involve yourself in activities that really interest you, and participating in those activities not only to make new friends, but to really enjoy what you’re doing. People want to get closer to those who are having a good time because they want to share in that happiness.
As you meet people, remember that they probably aren’t listened to just like you. They may not realize that they have a tendency to talk about themselves all of the time. Lend them that ear because there will be a time when they will fill up their attention tank and then it will be your turn. If not, there are always many other people where you can get your tanked filled too.
Getting your loved ones to make time for you is another way for you to feel more listened to. It’s a good idea to approach your loved ones with the feelings you’ve been having of not being listened to. Don’t attack them with your feelings, simply just let them know, and then ask them if they could spend more time with you. It’s hard to ask people for what you need, but loved ones are usually more than happy to help someone who’s helped them many times in the past.
Don’t settle for people not listening to you. It will only make you feel depressed. Instead, do something about it. Make changes, so you can get people to listen to you. It will make you feel happier, more powerful, and worthy.
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Listening is what I do best. Start with me as you find people who will listen to your wants, needs, and desires. I can help you get the emotional support you need, so you can start to feel better about yourself and live a life you love.
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