You call your son, but he quickly rushes you off the phone because he’s busy with work. You call your daughter, but she doesn’t answer. Or when you speak to your spouse they are too focused on a television show to listen. In these situations, you may feel no one will listen to you.
You’re Not Alone
This scenario is not rare. Many people end up feeling as though no one has time to listen. Even when something is wrong, people may have a hard time engaging because they are so wrapped up in their own day-to-day life. They don’t know how to take time out to pay attention to other people’s needs, even those that are closest to them.
Just because it’s common for this to happen, it doesn’t make it right. You are a worthy individual, who needs to be heard. A person with thoughts, feelings, and knowledge that others could really use. You are worthy of people’s attention, even though they don’t act like it.
So what do you do when no one will listen? You need to find people who will listen or ask loved ones to make time for you.
Finding People Who Will Listen
Finding people who will listen can seem impossible. You may go to a social activity in your community, but everyone already knows each other, so you feel as though you’re not included. Or, you may start to speak to someone, but then you realize they just want to talk about themselves.
When these things happen, you just need to keep going. It’s hard, I know, but it’s the only way to find people who appreciate you and everything you have to offer – love, understanding, and information. Many times, all it takes is to involve yourself in activities that really interest you, and participating in those activities not only to make new friends but to really enjoy what you’re doing. People want to get closer to those who are having a good time because they want to share in that happiness.
Also, remember others may feel the same as you do. A friend may not realize that they are talking too much about themselves recently. Sometimes, if you lend them that ear they need now, they will help you later when you need to let off some steam.
Learning Ways to Communicate Your Needs
Getting your loved ones to make time for you can also be helpful. Learning ways to communicate your needs is part of the process. Don’t attack them, simply let them know you feel alone, and then ask them if they could spend more time with you. Then, possibly there is a way to build a communication schedule that works for all involved. It’s hard to ask people for what you need, but loved ones are usually more than happy to help someone who’s helped them in the past.
Don’t settle for people not listening to you. It will only make you feel depressed. Instead, do something about it. Make changes. It will make you feel happier, more powerful, and worthy.
Listening is what personal counselors do. Reach out today to get the emotional support you need, so you can start to feel better about yourself and live a life you love.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.