people tell you what to do

Why People Tell You What to Do Now

people tell you what to doIt can be frustrating to hear loved ones come to you thinking they know more than you now. There was a time when you used to tell them what to do all of the time. This is especially the case when speaking about your children.

Now, as you’ve aged, your children, who are now adults, have decided they should reverse the roles and give you instructions. At first, it may have been cute. You liked how they cared for you so much. You may have even played along with it because you knew it would make them happy. However, now, it’s getting quite annoying, especially when their tone isn’t as caring as it was before.

It’s Normal…

This happens to many people. Their families love them and want the best for them. Their families start to go overboard at times though, especially when there are medical issues that come into play.

It has to do with perception. Your loved ones can see that you’re not able to do as much as you used to, and that worries them. When they see what you can’t do anymore, they wonder what else you can’t do. They start to come up with possible things you can’t do such as think for yourself.

You may know you can still think for yourself, but your loved ones don’t believe that. You’ve probably even told them you can without success.

Since there’s not much you can do to convince them of your abilities, it’s time to adjust the way you’re dealing with their insistent care. Always remember, when you can’t change the situation, you change your perception of it.

How to Handle Overbearing Loved Ones

Your loved ones mean well, as much as it doesn’t seem that way. Remember that in the most difficult times because it will keep you from losing control of your reactions to them.

When your loved ones are telling you that you should do this or you shouldn’t do that, take some of their advice. Usually, just doing one or two of their requests will appease them. That way you’ll be able to continue on with whatever you want to do.

Invite your loved ones to the doctors with you. Unfortunately, the doctor has more power in helping your loved ones see that you are not as incapable as they believe. You may want to put a call in to the doctor before you go to the appointment to see if he or she can help you with speaking to your loved ones.

Compromise has helped you for many years when dealing with your loved ones, so why stop now? You can always sit down with them to explain how you’ve been feeling. You can then come up with a plan. This plan would include doing some of the things that they want you to do, and some of the things you want to do.

It can be irritating to think that you need to negotiate how you will live your life, but if you think about it, this isn’t anything new. As you were raising your children, you’ve probably had to compromise on the things you wanted to do for the sake of your children. Now that you’re older, things haven’t changed too much, accept now your children are adults and it’s harder to deal with because it’s not you caring for them, but them caring for you.

Even with that being said, it’s difficult. That’s why I provide personal consulting to people just like you. I help them through these difficult times, so they can live the life they want along with keeping the peace between them and their families. Would you like some help too? Simply contact me and we can start talking on the phone or Skype.

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