Reasons to Talk to a Counselor

Reasons to Talk to a Counselor

There are many reasons to talk to a counselor. It can be helpful, of course, to seek counseling if you are going through a big life change, including a divorce, a lost job, or if you are grieving for someone you love who has passed. In addition to these circumstances, many seek counseling when they are simply not feeling like themselves and wishing for a happier life. 

The truth is that even if you have been dealt a pretty good hand in life, there will still be rough patches when you are struggling and could use another person to help you. 

When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself

If you are feeling hopeless or having periods of anxiety, there is a problem. There is no reason for you to feel down, sad, or weary for extended periods of time. If you find yourself with diminished energy, it is likely you will find yourself less productive. Some even stopping work and social connections entirely.

In these situations, our own natural coping skills may not be enough. Motivating yourself to get a bit of exercise and look into self help techniques can help a bit, but if there is no true difference in your feelings, this is one of several reasons to talk to a counselor. 

If You Are Not Practicing Self Care 

When people are going through a hard time, you may find them abusing someone they love or relying on a substance to try and find relief. Others fall into bad health habits because they feel day-to-day life is too big to handle, that the task of self care has become too much. 

If you are showing disgust and anger toward a loved one, it is likely you are feeling bad about yourself and could benefit by talking through this harmful impulse. Similarly, if you are not practicing personal hygiene or find yourself relying on alcohol or food to soothe yourself, there is likely a larger issue at work. Feeling better by sabotaging yourself or harming those you love is not a path to happiness. You will only find more pain, creating a cycle of hurt.

Someone Has Recommended You Seek Help

If a friend or family member has noticed you have not been yourself and has mentioned it to you, this is clearly one of the reasons to talk to a counselor. Maybe they are telling you because they see things are getting worse. Or maybe they mentioned counseling because your issues are too much for them to hold. Either way, it is a clear sign you could benefit from another person’s patience and guidance.

If you are unsure how to fit counseling into your life, either because you are busy or not able to leave your house due to physical limitations or fear, there are ways to connect with counselors online. Sessions can happen over the phone. The calls are opportunities for you to explore your emotions and troubles. Together, you and a counselor can determine what is needed to improve your life. 

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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