Saying Goodbye to Unhealthy Relationships

Sometimes the best thing to do is to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever. There are times when the best thing we can do for ourselves is to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship. If you feel like you are constantly monitoring your behavior or you are investing a lot of emotions into another person and getting little in return, it may be time to evaluate the relationship.

If you want to talk through an issue in your life, a personal counselor can help. There are ways for you to make your own happiness a priority and build a future for yourself that includes healthy relationships.

Allowing Yourself Time to Heal

Many find they have different types of friends. Our best friends buoy our spirits. But there may be others who make us feel like we are weaker than them or laugh at our dreams and ambitions. After all, everyone is different and you may be seeking different types of connections from different people.

One of the first things you can do when evaluating your relationships is to simply take time to be kind to yourself. Self-compassion is an important part of individual growth. Plus, when you care for yourself, you will be able to see when it is time to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship.

For example, think about caring for yourself as an adult would nurture a child. Then, it may be clear that even if a friend is entertaining in some ways, the ways they are hurting you are not acceptable. When you say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship it can clear the way for more positive changes to your own life.

Make the decision to spend time with people who care for you and love you. If someone in your social circle continually tears you down, steer clear of those interactions. When you have to communicate with the individual, be direct and clear.

Ways to Say Goodbye to an Unhealthy Relationship

In order to make a change in your life, it is important to have a plan in place. This is true for any life change, whether you are making changes to your friend group, adjusting your eating habits, or working toward a personal goal.

For instance, if you know there will be times you will miss a person you were in a toxic relationship with, have a plan for when those feelings arise. Maybe you can sign up for a class at the time the two of you used to have dinner together. Breaking old patterns and finding ways to establish new friendships is a path to building the future you desire.

There are times when individuals outgrow relationships. This is normal. You want to have people in your life who celebrate your successes and champion your happiness. When someone who is supposed to be your friend is jealous and wants to hold you back, or if they are clingy and controlling, it could be time to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship.

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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