Mother’s Day is next month, so it’s time to start thinking about how you will be honoring her. This is a day that really brings you back to the reason we all have mothers. We have mothers because we need to be cared for, and not only when we are babies. We need mothers when we’re adolescents, young adults, and into our middle ages.
Just because we need our mothers, it doesn’t mean that they are perfect. Some of us may not have had a mother that tended to all of our needs. Our mother may not have given us what we expected from a mother.
However, now that mother is getting older. What do you do? Do you try to treat her in a way that is your perception of how you were treated? Or do you let bygones be bygones and do everything that you wished she did for you?
It’s a tough decision, especially when you may not be able to forget, even though you’ve forgiven.
Only you can make the decision about how you will care for your mother. Some people decide that they want to take care of all of the needs of their mother, while others choose to hire services to help care for their mother. Is one better than the other? No.
How you choose to care for your mother depends on what you believe is best for her. A lot like how she chose to care for you is what she believed was best for you. See, you may not know what is best for your mother, but you’re going to try to take care of her. She didn’t know for certain what was best for you growing up, but she tried.
Sometimes, it helps to separate yourself from the past to be able to see the present much more clearly. When you can see the situation in front of you clearly, you will be able to make wiser decisions. It should never be the case that you allow your past to dictate your present and future. The present is present and the future will be the future.
What to Do With This Information
This Mother’s Day, take some time to reflect on what you truly believe is right when it comes to taking care of your mother. Don’t let your anger, resentment, and disappointment decide for you. Focus on what is really going on with your mother, and what her needs are right now.
You can then decide if you can fulfill her needs or if you should hire services to help her. In either case, you are helping her, and that’s what matters.
Do You Need More Help?
It’s much easier to read about how you should try to separate yourself from your emotions to tend to your mother’s needs, than it is to implement it. This is why I’m here for you. As a personal consultant, I help people in your situation be able to make decisions based on their mother’s needs. I’m able to help people understand why they feel the way they do because of beliefs they hold onto so tightly.
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