Do you have someone in your life that has a patient ear? Someone who is willing to listen to you, no matter what? A personal confidant is someone who possesses and responds to you with kind words, compassionate delivery feedback, gentle actions, an open heart, and a willingness to help change the life of another without judgment, personal opinions, or blame.
Friends and Family Members
Friends and family members can be personal confidants, but sometimes they are too close to a situation you want to discuss. They may not tell you what you need to hear, for fear of hurting your feelings and setting you off on another emotional roller coaster ride. In those cases, it can be helpful to turn to a personal consultant.
Objective Feedback from a Personal Confidant
For those times when you either want to keep your situation private and confidential or when just really need someone who is able to provide objective and professional feedback, a professinal can be a welcome addition to your life.
A virtual warm hug and a patient ear from a personal confidant allows you to discuss and find solutions to situations that require a good listener. A good listener is a character trait that very few people execute, because they’re either too busy interrupting and telling you their own story or they aren’t pausing their own concerns to truly listen.
Compassion is another word that comes to mind when you’re considering reaching out to a personal consultant. If you are brave enough to trust someone with your deepest heartfelt thoughts, emotions, and sometimes pent-up anger, then what you definitely want to speak to a person who will be compassionate during and after hearing your life situation story.
Healing from Past Disappointments
Maybe you’ve had one or more personal experiences burning inside of you ever since childhood and you’ve kept it a secret. But now, many, many years later, you can’t seem to move past a series of events that left you devastated as a child. What do you do to move forward? Whom do you trust with that information?
You’ll know when the time is right and you’ll feel like you just have to share your story and move forward. The route to personal success always begins with the first step. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. It is important that you find a personal confidant who is a good match for you. Someone you feel comfortable with, an individual who can move you toward solutions.
Choosing a Personal Confidant
Create a list of three things that you are willing to discuss with several consultants. Then, meet with recommended consultants. If the first person you speak with feels right, that is great! If not, then schedule an appointment with the second person on your list. The goal is to find a personal confidant with a patient ear who is there for you, 100 percent.
Objective and professional feedback is a valuable asset to consider when you’re searching for your own personal confidant. What qualities are you searching for in someone so that you can achieve your own personal success?
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.
