Do you have someone in your life that has “a patient ear” and is willing to listen to you, no matter what? A personal confidant is someone who possesses and responds to you with kind words, compassionate delivery feedback, gentle actions, an open heart, a willingness to help change the life of another without judgment, personal opinions, or blame.
Friends and Family Members
A personal confidant listening
Friends and family members, if they do qualify as your personal confident, are sometimes too close to the situation occurring in your life. They may not tell you what you need to hear, for fear of hurting your feelings and setting you off on another emotional roller coaster ride.
Objective and Professional Feedback
For those times when you either want to keep your situation private and confidential, or when just really need someone who is able to provide objective and professional feedback, then you would do well to search for a personal consultant, such as myself.
A virtual warm hug and a patient ear from a personal confidant allow you to discuss and find solutions to situations that require a good listener. A good listener is a character trait that very few people execute, because they’re either too busy interrupting and telling you “their” story, or else they really haven’t heard a word you said.
Compassion is another word that comes to mind when you’re considering finding your own personal confidant. If you are brave enough to trust someone with your deepest heartfelt thoughts, emotions, and sometimes pent-up anger, then what you definitely need to put on your requirements list is that the person will be compassionate during and after hearing your life situation story.
Healing from Past Disappointments
Maybe you’ve had one or more personal experiences burning inside of you ever since childhood and you’ve kept it a secret. But now, many, many years later, you can’t seem to move past a series of events that left you devastated as a child. What do you do to move forward? Whom do you trust with that information?
You’ll know when the time is right and you’ll feel like you just have to “get it out there” or else you will remain stuck. The route to personal success always begins with the first step. And don’t quit searching for that personal confidant until you find him or her who you feel comfortable with.
Choosing a Personal Confidant
Start out with a list of three things that you are willing to discuss with several consultants, but don’t reveal “the” situation until you’ve found the person you trust and can feel good working with. If you find that person on your first visit, then great! If not, then schedule an appointment with the second person on your list. The goal is to find a personal confidant with a patient ear who is there for you, 100 percent.
Objective and professional feedback is a valuable asset to consider when you’re searching for your own personal confidant. What qualities are you searching for in someone so that you can achieve your own personal success?
