Over the years, you’ve been caring for people. If you are a woman, you may have children that you cared for since the day they were born. Then, once those children grew up, they may have had children of their own and you have transitioned from being a mom to being a mother and a grandmother. While you may enjoy being an involved grandma, remember to prioritize the time to yourself you need to rejuvenate.
If you are struggling with managing family commitments and your own personal goals, connect with a personal counselor. There are strategies to help you secure time to yourself.
Connect with What Motivates You
Whether you feel your family is asking too much of you or wish they would visit more often, trying to control others is not possible. Instead, take control of your time. Think of all those times in the past that you wished you could have done something but you thought you couldn’t or shouldn’t do them because you had to be present for someone else.
If your children are grown, you’ve satisfied your role as a mother. Of course, you will always be a mother. And being a mom means you’ll want to provide support when needed, but nothing to the extent of when the kids were young. And even though you are a grandmother, this role comes with different expectations, which is why you are allowed to take time for yourself.
Yes, your grandchildren may want to see you, but they want a grandmother who is completely present with them, not thinking about what else needs to be done or how desperately she wants to be at home. You are not giving them what they want when you force yourself to spend time with your grandchildren.
If you’re able to take time away, you will be able to care for yourself in a way that will benefit your grandchildren. You will feel better about yourself, your life, and that will make you act differently. You will be more loving and caring.
Prioritize Time to Yourself
There may be times when you feel pressured to take care of others. For example, a grandchild may tell you they want you to stay longer, but sticking to your schedule is important. Since children don’t comprehend the adult need for time alone, telling them in a language they understand can help. Something like, “Just like sometimes you like to play alone, grandma needs to play alone for a little bit.”
Respecting boundaries and practicing self-care is essential, doing so can boost the health of an entire family. To learn ways to care for yourself and make your objectives a reality, connect with a personal counselor. Many find discussing personal problems with someone outside of their immediate family and social circle brings clarity and relief.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.