Think about your life. Are there areas you’d like to improve? If you can’t think of something right now, think back to the last day or so. What did you complain about? What makes you frown?
Now that you have recognized an area of your life you’d like to change, take steps toward improvements in the New Year. A personal counselor can help.
Many people, even happy ones, have something about their life they want to change. There’s always something to improve upon. And the New Year is the perfect time to do that.
Write Down the Problem and the Solution
If you are looking for actionable steps, start by writing down what is troubling you. When you write something down, you make it real. Once you have it written down, underneath it write down why this is such a problem in your life. Write down the consequences of it and why you want to change it.
This is the process of analyzing the situation you want to change. When you analyze it, your mind starts to work on it. You may even be surprised to come up with possible solutions. Work quickly and try not to overthink what you are writing, you don’t want to lose valuable ideas.
Next, think of every single possibility there is to change that part of your life, including ideas you don’t believe are possible. It’s the way your mind solves problems, so give it credit. It may lead you to a possibility that will work for you.
As you’re writing all of these solutions, circle ones you immediately know will work. This will help you later. With your solutions circled, it’s time to implement them to see which ones will help you change your life. You do this by planning first. Consider using a calendar to plan what you’ll do when. It will also help you track how well you are doing.
How to Make Changes in Your Life
Once you have everything planned out, you’re ready to start making changes. The first day you have one of your solutions, you should try it. After trying that solution, write down what happened. Be sure to pay attention to how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally. These are all important in assessing whether the solution worked.
If the solution didn’t work, move on to the next solution. Do the same thing with assessing the outcome. If it doesn’t work, move on to the next one, and so on and so forth. This is part of the process of learning and improving. Try to avoid the urge to be hard on yourself. Simply accept another solution may work better.
For some of the solutions, you may find that it improved your situation, but not enough. That might mean you need to tweak the solution a bit and try again. There’s no problem with doing that – it’s all part of discovering what will work for you.
Changing the Impossible
Some people will read this and think there isn’t anything they can do about their situation. This could be true for individuals struggling with medical issues, for example. While you may not be able to cure your medical condition, you can make it easier to handle using this technique. Instead of thinking about the medical condition as the problem, think about the consequences of it, and try to alleviate your personal stresses.
Changing your life isn’t always easy, but it is possible. Reach out for support. A counselor can walk you through the process of creating a New Year of happiness.
Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.