Your character is the sum of all your thoughts, capacities, desires, feelings, ideas, actions, and the people surrounding you throughout your lifetime. Let’s look at a list of some general forces that can shape an individual’s character.
1. Environment and education.
2. Primitive instincts that you have inherited from your ancestors that might be holding you back in your unconscious mind.
3. Self-pride, which modifies all the other forces that are work at any given moment.
Your environment does not only mean where you live, and your education does not just apply to the basic studies required in a public or private school setting. It goes much deeper than that. For instance, who took care of you during your first week of life? Was that person warm, compassionate and caring? Were you held a lot and rocked to sleep? Did someone sing to you? Or, did you receive the silent treatment, very little touching, were never held, or your bottle was propped up with a towel to feed you? This might sound trivial however thousands of actions are performed during the first week of a person’s life that make up an individual’s character.
It has often been said that an individual’s first five years of life dictate how they will be for the rest of their life, as far as their character goes. However, everyone knows the circumstances in your life can change, but how you respond to them revolves around your basic character.
Primitive instincts can be defined by a higher state of mind, the ability to displace or conceal your thoughts in any given situation, and a sexual instinct for mating or feeling closer to others. It’s often been said that someone’s character is defined by how they observe the situation. Do you consider yourself an exhibitionist, an observer, or a combination of both? The forces of your character will have you interacting with people based on those primitive instincts.
Whether you feel repressed, displaced, or sublimated, those character forces can be compared with physical energy, which we are all accustomed to in our everyday lives. We know for a fact that energy must find some type of outlet for its discharge. The same is true for humans. There are not several kinds of energy, but merely several manifestations of them that can be changed from one form to another, but still the sum total of the original energy remains without additional loss.
Take, for example, a situation where you received some unhappy news such as not getting a promotion that you thought you would get at work. Then several hours later you’re having dinner with your friends and one couple is just filled with hilarity and bubbling over with happiness for no other reason than they just felt good that day. Now you have a choice. You can sit there and be unhappy, but your character can also be influenced by the energy that’s around you. And if you’re not trying to hold onto a sad and depressed feeling, then most likely your character is going to kick in and you could be laughing right along with the rest of the group in a matter of seconds.
Much more can be said about the forces of what creates and defines a character. Certainly life circumstances can change someone’s outlook, but if you’re having doubts about why you’re doing something in your life and you’re wondering if you need a character evaluation, then click here for an appointment. I am ready to help you quickly get back to becoming the positive character that you once were.