Your core values are your belief system. These beliefs control how you make decisions in your life. For example, if you do not appreciate it when someone lies to you but then you tell your boss a lie, you have just compromised one of your values.
Do You Compromise Your Core Values?
Most compromises occur in relationships when one partner goes against a core value just to please the other person. This can happen in a variety of circumstances. So, if you believe that just having a landline phone at home is sufficient for your lifestyle and you don’t want others to have 24/7 access to you, that becomes a core value. However, if you get into a relationship with someone who belittles you about not having a cell phone, and you go out and buy one, you’ve just compromised one of your core values in order to please someone.
Low self-esteem is often responsible for someone compromising their core values. Unless you have the confidence to stand up for yourself and what you believe in, many of your life decisions will be influenced as an outcome.
When you’re committed to remaining true to yourself, you won’t compromise your values for a spouse, a best friend, or another person who tries to intimidate you. If you’ve made mistakes in the past, it doesn’t mean that you have to compromise yourself in any situation today or anytime in the future. Simply be aware of the fact that when you compromise your core values, the consequences will eventually have a detrimental effect on your well-being.
Stress, anxiety, and worry about making the right decision in any circumstance can lead to a lack of sleep, poor nutrition habits, and feelings of low self-worth. Risking your health should not be an option if anyone in your life asks or demands that you compromise or violate one of your core values. Instead, make positive lifestyle changes for your overall health.
How Can You Change?
You do not have to compromise your core values in order to make a change in your life. A better option when confronted with a situation that tempts you to compromise your core values is to walk away from the person who’s challenging you to do something that you do not believe in. Granted, if you’re in a marriage, a career, or some other long-term binding relationship, walking away might not be an easy solution. However, circumstances change and people change.
Be honest with yourself and those you love. While we all crave attention and status, the truth is living without breaking your core values is a path to a sense of peace and calm. You will feel you have done the right thing.
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