Why You Really Do Need People and How to Find People You Like

Three friends laughing together.

Many people will say something like, “Oh, I don’t need people. People are just problems.” While there is some truth to this statement, the repercussions of it are unhealthy. In reality, there are many reasons why friendships are important. If you are in the process of building friendships but need someone to talk to today, connect with a personal counselor.

Why Friendships Are Important

We are human beings. Human beings are programmed to need other people in their life. In other words, human beings need love.

Yes, love can come from many different things such as music, animals, and favorite television shows, but these types of love aren’t the same. The love you receive from a human being is something much different. There’s something biological in that type of love.

So what do you do when you should have people around you, but you really don’t like many other people or want to deal with some of the baggage that comes along with having friendships? Well, you keep moving forward finding new people.

It’s likely the people you’ve been meeting (yes, even for years) haven’t been right for you. In this world, there are billions of people, and they are all different. Don’t close the door on meeting new people just because you have met some who just weren’t your cup of tea.

Connect with Others While Pursuing Your Interests

One of the best ways to finally meet people you enjoy spending time with is to join groups, activities, and organizations that you believe in and have fun participating in. Think about it – when you enjoy what you’re doing, other people are there enjoying it too. Right there, you have commonalities that you can grow from. Does that mean every person you meet in those settings will be right for you? No, of course not, but the chances of finding people you do like are higher.

Ane when you meet more people you simply don’t care for, just keep moving forward. Some people talk about this friend, that friend, and then another friend. But when you later ask how one of those friends is doing, they will share that they haven’t spoken to that person in a while. This is an indicator that a person hasn’t found their forever friends yet, but they are still interacting with others, which can bring interest and joy to one’s life.

There is a valuable lesson here. You don’t have to swear off all relationships because some of them don’t work out. Instead, you can continue to meet people, learn about them, and then decide if you would like them to be part of your life. Don’t let those that get you down bring you down. Simply find new friends in hopes that someday you will find those special people that you click with so much that they stop being a burden and start being a blessing.

Kendall Van Blarcom is a senior helping seniors. Contact Van Blarcom Consulting today for help with your personal problems. Or, reach out to provide support for an older adult in your life.

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